Here we come! Out!

Okay, I have a secret.. I’m a lesbian. That’s it, that’s the secret. BUT our story doesn’t end there. In fact, it’s just begun! My wife, her name is Emily, was my husband just a few short months ago (I’ve of course asked her permission to write about all of this). I met my wife in 2012 when I was pretty much an infant, I was 14 and she was 15. I was obsessed and we were inseparable through our high-school years. at 16, I had our first child, we married 3 years later and brought another little baby nugget into our family. SUPER fast forward to September of 2020, my then husband came out to me.

Bravery doesn’t even come close to explaining it. She was terrified. She spent months on Reddit threads and other places on the web researching how to tell me, what to do, and how I would react. We were alone in the car for our weekly Hobby Lobby trip (I’d need a whole new blog just to explain my love for crafts) and she told me. I asked her to pull into a parking lot so that we could talk about it as we were both bawling at this point. I know it wasn’t even a month ago, but I remember looking at her and just saying “I love you, I don’t care who you are, what you look like, none of it. You are my person and I’m here for you no matter what.”

Her face after I said that brought me instant relief. Not many people who come out to their partner are expecting them to stay. And the statistics on that actually shocked me. We cried together, did our Hobby Lobby haul, and spent the rest of the time talking about how excited we are for this journey together. Have you ever seen someone find themselves and it just makes you love them even more? Ya know?!

She was extremely nervous about calling Planned Parenthood and we did extensive research before picking up the phone. We didn’t even realize how many options are out there now. She called, and was able to get an appointment fairly quickly. As of today, she has been on HRT for 5 days and already talks about how much better she is starting to feel. With all of this, my hope is for someone to read this and have hope for their future with their partner as well. This is just the start, and thank you for following along.

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